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Sometimes people come into your life & you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or help you figure out who you are & or who you want to become You never know who these people may be (possibly your roommate, neighbor, professor, long lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger), but when you lock eyes with them, you know at the very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way.
And sometime things will happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, & unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming these obstacles that you would have never realized your true potential, strength, will power, or heart.
Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by mean of good luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness & sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without this small test, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe & comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.
The people that you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you will become Even the bad experiences are learned from. In fact, they are the most poignant ones.
If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love & how to open your heart & eyes to things.
Make everyday count. Appreciate every moment & take from those moments everything you could possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before & actually listen… Let yourself fall in love again, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right too.
Tell yourself that you are a great individual & believe in yourself. For if you don’t believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you. You can make your life anything you wish…..Create your own life & then go out & live it with absolutely NO REGRETS. Most importantly, if you love someone tell him or her, for you NEVER know what tomorrow may have in store. And learn a lesson in life each day you live.
Today is the tomorrow you were worried about yesterday…. Was it worth it?
A Reason, A Season Or A Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a god-send, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, your desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered, and now it is time to move on.
When people come into your life for a season, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Regardless of whether the people in your life are here for a reason, a season or a lifetime, go show them that you love them!
The First Principle states:
“Whomsoever you encounter is the right one”
This means that no one comes into our life by chance. Everyone who is around us, anyone with whom we interact, represents something, whether to teach us something or to help us improve a current situation.
The Second Principle states:
“Whatever happened is the only thing that could have happened”
Nothing, absolutely nothing of that which we experienced could have been any other way. Not even in the least important detail. There is no “If only I had done that differently…, then it would have been different…”. No. What happened is the only thing that could have taken place and must have taken place for us to learn our lesson in order to move forward. Every single situation in life which we encounter is absolutely perfect, even when it defies our understanding and our ego.
The Third Principle states:
“Each moment in which something begins is the right moment”
Everything begins at exactly the right moment, neither earlier nor later. When we are ready for it, for that something new in our life, it is there, ready to begin.
The Fourth Principle states:
“What is over, is over”
It is that simple. When something in our life ends, it helps our evolution. That is why, enriched by the recent experience, it is better to let go and move on.
Think it is no coincidence that you’re here reading this.
If these words strike a chord, it’s because you meet the requirements and understand that not one single snowflake falls accidentally in the wrong place!
Be good to yourself.
Love with your whole being.
Always be happy.
When the Good Lord was creating mothers, He was into His sixth day of “overtime” when the angel appeared and said. “You’re doing a lot of fiddling around on this one.”
And God said, “Have you read the specs on this order?” She has to be completely washable, but not plastic. Have 180 moveable parts…all replaceable. Run on black coffee and leftovers. Have a lap that disappears when she stands up. A kiss that can cure anything from a broken leg to a disappointed love affair. And six pairs of hands.”
The angel shook her head slowly and said. “Six pairs of hands…. no way.”
It’s not the hands that are causing me problems,” God remarked, “it’s the three pairs of eyes that mothers have to have.”
That’s on the standard model?” asked the angel. God nodded.
One pair that sees through closed doors when she asks, ‘What are you kids doing in there?’ when she already knows. Another here in the back of her head that sees what she shouldn’t but what she has to know, and of course the ones here in front that can look at a child when he goofs up and say. ‘I understand and I love you’ without so much as uttering a word.”
God,” said the angel touching his sleeve gently, “Get some rest tomorrow….”
I can’t,” said God, “I’m so close to creating something so close to myself. Already I have one who heals herself when she is sick…can feed a family of six on one pound of hamburger…and can get a nine year old to stand under a shower.”
The angel circled the model of a mother very slowly. “It’s too soft,” she sighed.
But tough!” said God excitedly. “You can imagine what this mother can do or endure.”
Can it think?”
Not only can it think, but it can reason and compromise,” said the Creator.
Finally, the angel bent over and ran her finger across the cheek.
There’s a leak,” she pronounced. “I told You that You were trying to put too much into this model.”
It’s not a leak,” said the Lord, “It’s a tear.”
What’s it for?”
It’s for joy, sadness, disappointment, pain, loneliness, and pride.”
You are a genius, ” said the angel.
Somberly, God said, “I didn’t put it there.”
~ Emma Bombeck
No one can control our age, it is inevitable.
“That’s the trouble with you young people. You think because you ain’t been here long, you know everything. In my life I already forgot more than you ever know.” [ Neil Gaiman ]
But this one I find it agreeable – you are only old as you feel. And old age is a state of mind.
Age is a case of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it don’t matter. [ Satchel Paige ]
Study finds that believing you are younger than you actually are is the key to a long life. Don’t instill in your mind that you will be frail when you get old. Instead, choose to be positive, thinking that enjoying life to the fullest can keep you young. To feel old is just a state of mind. And to feel good about your life should be an important aspect of healthy aging. There are a lot of smart choices to keep your body tuned up and your mind tuned in… from eating the right food, finding the best exercise, and engage in activities where you can still socialize to keep you on the move and perk up an aging brain. Choose to age well.
“It’s [old age] not a surprise, we knew it was coming – make the most of it. So you may not be as fast on your feet, and the image in your mirror may be a little disappointing, but if you are still functioning and not in pain, gratitude should be the name of the game.” [ Betty White ]
“THE BEST people are the good old wrinkled people with a sparkle in their eye, a wink when you walk by or a toothless smile saying you are doing just fine …” [ Robert Wesley Miller ]
Unconditional love is the purest form of love. It is known as affection without any limitations, or love without conditions. The need of someone else comes first without the expectation of getting anything in return.
“To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return. To just give. That takes courage, because we don’t want to fall on our faces or leave ourselves open to hurt.” [ Madonna ]
Beware of those who are bitter,
For they will never allow you
To enjoy your fruit.
Beware of those who criticize you
When you deserve some praise for an achievement,
For they secretly desire to be worshiped.
Beware of those who are needy or stingy,
For they would rather sting you
Than give you anything.
Beware of those who are always hungry.
They will feed you to the wolves
Just to get paid.
Beware of those who speak negatively
About everything and everybody.
A negative person will never say
A positive thing about you.
Beware of those who are bored
And not passionate about life.
They will bore you with reasons for not living.
Beware of those who are too focused with
Polishing and beautifying their outer shells.
They lack true substance to understand
That genuine beauty is in the heart
that resides inside.
Beware of those who step in the path of your dreams.
They only dream to have the ability
To take half your steps.
Beware of those who steer you away
From your heart’s true happiness.
It would make them happy to see you
Steer yourself next to them,
Sitting with both your hearts bitter.
Those who are critical don’t like being criticized,
And those who are insensitive have a deficiency in their senses.
Beware of those who tell you to BEWARE.
They are too aware of everything –
And live alone, scared.”
– Suzy Kassem
Thinking back on my teenage moments, I had this mad crush on Prince Charles, Prince of Wales. I dreamed that one day he would walk into my life and sweep me off my feet. The only thing we had in common was our birthdays. Both of us are born in the same month and on the same day with exactly 10 year difference to the date. What we didn’t have in common was life itself. Wondering how I could live the princess image within myself so I could possibly have the opportunity to persuade Queen Elizabeth that I was the best match out there for her beloved son. Not even aware that I was living an illusion…a conscious magical relationship, I purchased every article in print on Prince Charles, studied his family so that they would accept me and approve of me running away with my Prince Charming. I spent valuable time living an illusion that I felt could give me power and recognition as a person. Literally, how many stories are in print describing how Prince Charming comes racing into someone’s life, kisses them and they become alive, magical, and set in motion.
Years later, it was interesting to watch this magical wedding broadcasted basically on every station in the USA. I thought; how lovely that Princess Diana got to live the magical love. I believe that many of us have this fantasy of some sort. Maybe it’s not Prince Charles but some famous movie actor or actress, or any magical image our minds have created through childhood. Illusionary relationships do not exist. Illusionary relationships are our fantasy-base belief from some mis-conceived, make-believe knowledge in our childhood or some false notion that we need to be saved. Why? We have been abandoned. We have power in the thought that someone stronger and more powerful than “I” will role play with us the abandonment of the love and nurture missing in our lives. It is the absentee of pure relationships that has given us the imaginary illusion that we can seek or discover and even claim that fairytale relationship.
We are consistently looking to find our happiness in someone else’s life. Another disbelief many of us have is “When I find my soul mate life will be peachy,” and “When I have a perfect body, I’ll be loved and desired by all the charming prince/princesses out there,” or “I can get anyone I want because I look good”. Looking for approval? Looking to be recognized? Looking to be important? Someone, please pay attention to me. If that means I need to get into your head, then I’ll keep searching through you to find myself. Fairytales and illusions mask the negative belief that…“When I get what I want then I’ll be happy.” What exactly… is it you want? You want the love and the security that you will be surrounded by comfort and love from someone who will give you the strength, devotion, bond and unconditional love that you were missing in your youth.
Here’s the truth whether you believe it or not, you cannot find happiness in someone else even if you love, adore and create them to be your everlasting God or Goddess. It’s no surprise that we are victims of this mis-belief as how many times have we sat in front of the television and watched Disney tell us a story of our magical prince, yet alone bed-time stories of Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs and Cinderella while Mom or Dad were absent in loving us in WHOLE. Isn’t it easier to believe fairytales are romantic, safe “emotional harbors”? You bet it is! So how do we overcome the belief that finding happiness in someone else is not the answer? How do we connect to Self and see who we really are? I can’t tell you how my times I have re-lived the past of being abandoned and how the present moment helped me eliminate more than 90 percent of that process that doesn’t exist any longer in my life. It had happened. I kept making it happen. But it’s not to keep happening! Living in the past and looking for someone to rescue you does not eliminate abandonment. It keeps the cycle alive. It’s in the present moment where you will connect to self and see all that you had been living in someone or something else including the illusions in “self”.
Meditation is a great purity of Divine presence in self that enables you to focus on your current surroundings. Keeping self in present moment brings instant spiritual connection with our creator’s presence, our Source. Being in the NOW is the key to clearing past issues and illusions and obtaining a secure, safe present life free of any illusions.
The spiritual truth is that the only person who can ever make you happy is YOU. That’s why learning how to unconditionally love and accept your Self is a grand accomplishment. We love and accept ourselves in the present moment. What we accomplish in the present moment is reality…a reality that “we are not perfect” and “acceptance of ourselves”. The power is within you. Not someone else. In the present moment, you will find that you are perfect the way you are. Loving yourself is not being selfish but selfless. It’s called, unconditional love.
Your mind uses the past and it’s illusions (fairytales) to emotionally escape (repress, minimize, deny, etc.) when your relationships trigger feelings that make you feel ignored, abandoned, frightened, abused, or misunderstood then it’s easy to instantly place self in that fairytale love story. It makes you feel as if your safety and security are dependent upon another person. Such as the thought, “his love will save me”. So how do we overcome this? The task ahead of you is not an easy one to take. The answer is “spiritual relationship with “self”.
A spiritual relationship with self leads to ONE or WHOLE. You begin to create an environment that is healthy and fosters the belief that you can be on all levels in Being. “Being” in spirituality means; mind, body and soul in ONENESS. You have the power to transform your fairytale relationship beliefs into Self-Being in present moment. By bringing self into presence, you are able to capture the picture of past conscious illusions and where the fairytale source originated from. By dissecting piece by piece of this self-belief of yourself and eliminating the fantasy of Prince Charming coming to rescue you, you will help ‘You” to attract a spiritually based, consciously awakened, loving relationship; a relationship where you can feel safe, appreciated, and loved; a relationship created by equals for the purpose of spiritual growth and a relationship where you and your partner agree that nothing is more important than your spiritual growth in the present moment. This is conscious living.