JOY AND SORROW

JOY and SORROW are inseparable. They complement each other. They are part of human condition. There is no way we can escape one or enjoy the other. We must go through the bad times to appreciate the good times.

What brings us great joy and sorrow are the deep attachments we have formed for someone or something. Very often, these people and things that created joy and bring happiness to our lives are the very same things and people that will make us sad or sorrowful when we lose them. 

Sadness and joy come together; they are in equilibrium.

Learning to accept our sorrows, we will then be able to dance to the symphony of joy!

With great joy, comes the potential of great sorrow. Such is the nature of life.

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On Joy and Sorrow
 Kahlil Gibran

Then a woman said, Speak to us of Joy and Sorrow.
And he answered :

Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. 

Some of you say, “Joy is greater than sorrow,” and others say, “Nay, sorrow is the greater.”
But I say unto you, they are inseparable.
Together they come, and when one sits, alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed. 

Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.
Only when you are empty are you at standstill and balanced.
When the treasure-keeper lifts you to weigh his gold and his silver, needs must your joy or your sorrow rise or fall.

 

 

 

 

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IT’S OK NOT TO BE OK

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Some days are just rough. Bad things come without a warning. Everyone reaches the lowest point in life, no matter how hard we try to be safe and protective of ourselves. We all go through the darkest times of our lives.

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But being not OK doesn’t mean you stop living.

 “The fact that you’re struggling doesn’t make you a burden. It doesn’t make you unloveable or undesirable or undeserving of care. It doesn’t make you too much or too sensitive or too needy. It makes you human. Everyone struggles. Everyone has a difficult time coping, and at times, we all fall apart. During these times, we aren’t always easy to be around – and that’s okay. No one is easy to be around one hundred percent of the time. Yes, you may sometimes be unpleasant or difficult. And yes, you may sometimes do or say things that make the people around you feel helpless or sad. But those things aren’t all of who you are and they certainly don’t discount your worth as a human being. The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved. You can be difficult and still be cared for. You can be less than perfect, and still be deserving of compassion and kindness.” [ Daniell Koepke]

Everything is temporary; Emotions, thoughts, people and scenery. Do not become attached, just flow with it.

If you’re sad, be sad. If you’re mad, be mad, shout, and scream. And it’s OK. Express your emotions in a way that it will help you.  Cry if you want to, and it’s OK instead of just bottling it up. Sometimes you have to cry before you can move forward. Crying is not an indication of weakness. We are human not robots anyway.

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Emotions should not be locked away.

“All emotions, even those that are suppressed and unexpressed, have physical effects. Unexpressed emotions tend to stay in the body like small ticking time bombs—they are illnesses in incubation.” [Marilyn Van Derbur]

Feelings are something all of us have. Our feelings are valid. We have every right to feel whatever emotion we want. And that’s not being dramatic nor over exaggerating.

 “We are supposed to feel. We are supposed to love. And hate. And hurt. And grieve and break and be destroyed and rebuild ourselves to be destroyed again. That is human. That is humanity. That’s being alive. That’s the point. That’s the entire point. Don’t avoid it. Don’t extinguish it.” [Grey’s Anatomy]

 

Emotions are fleeting.

And life isn’t static.

 

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WHEN GOD CREATED MOTHERS

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When the Good Lord was creating mothers, He was into His sixth day of “overtime” when the angel appeared and said. “You’re doing a lot of fiddling around on this one.” 

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And God said, “Have you read the specs on this order?” She has to be completely washable, but not plastic. Have 180 moveable parts…all replaceable. Run on black coffee and leftovers. Have a lap that disappears when she stands up. A kiss that can cure anything from a broken leg to a disappointed love affair. And six pairs of hands.” 

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The angel shook her head slowly and said. “Six pairs of hands…. no way.”

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It’s not the hands that are causing me problems,” God remarked, “it’s the three pairs of eyes that mothers have to have.”

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 That’s on the standard model?” asked the angel. God nodded. 

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 One pair that sees through closed doors when she asks, ‘What are you kids doing in there?’ when she already knows. Another here in the back of her head that sees what she shouldn’t but what she has to know, and of course the ones here in front that can look at a child when he goofs up and say. ‘I understand and I love you’ without so much as uttering a word.” 
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God,” said the angel touching his sleeve gently, “Get some rest tomorrow….” 

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I can’t,” said God, “I’m so close to creating something so close to myself. Already I have one who heals herself when she is sick…can feed a family of six on one pound of hamburger…and can get a nine year old to stand under a shower.” 

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The angel circled the model of a mother very slowly. “It’s too soft,” she sighed. 
But tough!” said God excitedly. “You can imagine what this mother can do or endure.” 

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Can it think?” 

Not only can it think, but it can reason and compromise,” said the Creator. 

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Finally, the angel bent over and ran her finger across the cheek. 

There’s a leak,” she pronounced. “I told You that You were trying to put too much into this model.” 

It’s not a leak,” said the Lord, “It’s a tear.” 

What’s it for?” 

It’s for joy, sadness, disappointment, pain, loneliness, and pride.” 

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You are a genius, ” said the angel. 

Somberly, God said, “I didn’t put it there.” 

~ Emma Bombeck

GETTING OLDER IS INEVITABLE, but…

 

No one can control our age, it is inevitable.

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“That’s the trouble with you young people. You think because you ain’t been here long, you know everything. In my life I already forgot more than you ever know.” [  Neil Gaiman ]

untitled-12.jpgBut this one I find it agreeable – you are only old as you feel. And old age is a state of mind.

 

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Age is a case of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it don’t matter.               [ Satchel Paige ] 

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Study finds that believing you are younger than you actually are is the key to a long life. Don’t instill in your mind that you will be frail when you get old. Instead, choose to be positive, thinking that enjoying life to the fullest can keep you young. To feel old is just a state of mind. And to feel good about your life should be an important aspect of healthy aging. There are a lot of smart choices to keep your body tuned up and your mind tuned in… from eating the right food, finding the best exercise, and engage in activities where you can still socialize to keep you on the move and perk up an aging brain. Choose to age well.

“It’s [old age] not a surprise, we knew it was coming – make the most of it. So you may not be as fast on your feet, and the image in your mirror may be a little disappointing, but if you are still functioning and not in pain, gratitude should be the name of the game.” [ Betty White ]

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THE BEST people are the good old wrinkled people with a sparkle in their eye, a wink when you walk by or a toothless smile saying you are doing just fine …” [ Robert Wesley Miller ]

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THE SHARPEST CRITICS …

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“Who are you to judge the life I live?  I know I’m not perfect and I don’t live to be.
but before you start pointing fingers make sure your hands are clean.” [ Bob Marley ]

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“There is an old and very wise Native American saying:

Every time you point a finger in scorn—there are three remaining fingers pointing right back at you.”

Remember that.

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No one should just criticize anybody. In this world, no is living a perfect life, nor anyone haven’t made a mistake at some point in their lifetime. No one lived without any challenges, hardships and troubles. No one escapes life’s suffering and sacrifices.

It is easy to make judgments about others. What most people shows to the world is only one tiny facet of the iceberg hidden from sight. And more often than not, it’s lined with cracks and scars that go all the way to the foundation of their soul.

 “Walk with me for a while, my friend—you in my shoes, I in yours—and then let us talk.”  [Richelle E. Goodrich]

But only if you have stepped on their own shoes and feel their pain, their struggles, and see the tears hidden in their smiles, then maybe you wouldn’t want to pass opinions on them. No one is without fault, and not without goodness either.

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Is there something you can gain from criticizing their imperfections?

 “If you find yourself criticizing other people, you’re probably doing it out of Resistance. When we see others beginning to live their authentic selves, it drives us crazy if we have not lived out our own.

Individuals who are realized in their own lives almost never criticize others. If they speak at all, it is to offer encouragement. Watch yourself. Of all the manifestations of Resistance, most only harm ourselves. Criticism and cruelty harm others as well.” [Stephen Pressfield ]

 Have some decency and learn to respect and be considerate of their feelings. Don’t take pleasure in eyeing anyone’s imperfections. Grow up! Face the mirror and look at yourself intently… have you any flaws? Faults?

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We are entitled to our own opinion, and not everyone is going to agree on everything. And as the saying goes, “If you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all.”

“When you judge another, you judge a child of God, and when you condemn another, you condemn your Heavenly Father.”  [ Dragos Bratasanu ]

 

 

 

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